Connecting with Self and Creating a New Identity

I am a work in progress.

This statement I used since I journey to knowing myself. I use this identity because I want to be kind to myself; declaring myself as an expert or fully healed will surely elevate my expectations. I will admonish myself for falling short.

• I was once a lost soul

• I lived in an unhappy marriage

• I had low self-esteem

• I got offended so quickly, as equally manipulated easily

• I received recognition for jobs well-done, but I thought of it as pure luck

• I was critical of myself

I made decisions after decisions, and I moved from one place to another. I was a nomad. I was restless. Until I realized I have to love myself and make myself whole so that whatever came in or came out, occurrences would not deter me because I know who I am. From then on, I experienced an awakening. It was like steering in a rapid current of a wild river. It was crazy. I understand how frequency worked, and as I spiraled in that quest, circumstance led to the same-minded people. They lay resources down to me to understand better what I was going through. Currently, I am on day 5 in a 7-day Unite challenge with a multi-millionaire Jason Fladlien, and he shares not just his expertise in making money, but he gives a portion of himself. He is eloquent and has answers to everything because he tried to step into those circumstances in his barely 40 years of existence and learned what's in there. He didn't talk about wealth right away, but he leaned on knowing yourself. He shared insights and techniques on how to know yourself more. He discussed NLPs and changing identity, which created beliefs. Often, we followed people on social media and mimic their lives and attribute how we changed because of them. But it's not. We emulate how they live because they inspire us, but how we transformed is within our power to shift perspective. I learned that having multiple views of things can lead us to a better understanding of people and the world. We also have to be kind to ourselves, and even negative occurrences have a positive charge on them. We have to look past negativity. In our world today, where the distractions are everywhere, we have to learn how to connect with people who matter to us and even those strangers; they enter our grid for a purpose. Every day, I hone my skills in writing. I juggle between marketing books, training on mindset, writing, and parenting. They said, put yourself out there and find those clients who will give you your dream income. However, I believe I have to make myself whole for me to give what I have. I am equipping myself with knowledge and empathy to impart a holistic approach to help those who need my services. At times, imposter syndrome takes the hell out of me. It overwhelms me, but learning some techniques and practicing them enabled me. Here are a few of what I am learning and practicing to better myself every day.

• Anchoring from NLP

• Releasing technique from Raikov Effect

• Gratitude from The Magic of Rhonda Byrnes

• Connecting with Self by Jason Fladlien

• Mind Movies by Natalie Ledwell

• Mindset from Mary Morrissey

• Self-Care and Self-Love from LOA

• Ego from Eckhart Tolle

• Living Truthfully from Wayne Dyer

• Mindfulness from Deepak Chopra

• Stoicism from Ryan Holiday

Many gurus out there, many books, and many coaches, but we have to follow what and who resonate with us.

What is being taught is already discussed previously, but it's not about the teacher. Teachers are mere instruments to embed that awareness in you; the leading player is you. I know a thing or two about a thing or two, but I am still a work in progress. I write as a career because I want to give fragments of myself to the world through written words. Empathetic and empowering words. It is frustrating, and I feel I am not good enough, but how do you define adequate? I am also trying to create a new identity and live with it. I know I can do this. I want to ingrain that to my brain because it's not just enough to say it consciously; I need to scrape layer after layer of limiting beliefs and programming. I understand those mind conditioning I have. I am trying to experience the kinesthetics of victory when I accepted those trophies and bathing with my colleagues' applause. From our identity, we create our belief system that determines who we are and our actions. We can always create a new identity and inhabit positivity instead of living in the haze of self-doubts, imposter syndrome, or procrastination. I am a work in progress, and I am shedding off the skin I was living with since I started freelancing. If you are on this kind of journey, reach out to me about how I can help. Those resources I've mentioned helped me live my truth. You can check them. Jason Fladlien has no social media, though, but you can check Rapid Crush. Others, you can check YouTube or ask Google. ... Or message me for copies of those materials. For free! I only intended to write a few words, but I got this long.

Thank you for reaching this point. Let me know how I can help; maybe a have an answer or two.