The Transformative Power of Gratitude: A Personal Journey

Understanding True Gratitude

Gratitude is more than just saying "thank you." It's the conscious act of appreciating everything that you have and everything that you are. Merriam-Webster describes gratitude as "the state of being grateful," but its impact runs deeper. It's a profound form of self-care and a pathway to genuine happiness.

There's power in those two small words—"thank you"—when expressed sincerely and frequently. When you genuinely feel the joy of giving, the happiness of receiving becomes even more marvelous. Being appreciated creates an overwhelming positive emotion that ripples throughout your life.

Remember the old cliché, "it's better to give than to receive"? That's gratitude in action. It promotes good karma, creating a cycle: what you give, you receive; what you do to others, you do unto yourself. Everything you say or do affects people, and something ricochets back to you in some form. Of course, if you plant mangoes, don't expect apples. The seeds you sow determine what you harvest.

The Challenge of Practicing Gratitude

You might be mentally computing your finances right now. Perhaps you're irritated by scattered toys in your living room, unwashed dishes, overflowing garbage, looming deadlines, or a neighbor's dog barking too loudly. How can you say "thank you" when you're irate, and all you want is to whine and mope?

This is precisely when gratitude matters most.

The power of gratitude can change lives, help you reach your dreams, and mend broken relationships. But first, let's explore what often holds us from experiencing genuine gratitude.

My Personal Gratitude Journey

I grew up in a home where we were taught that we weren't rich. We weren't living in poverty, but resources were scarce. We were discouraged from making friends with wealthier kids because they "might hurt us somehow," but that didn't stop me from having more fortunate friends.

I was often ashamed of our house and what my parents did for a living. They ran a small business in the wet market, buying live pigs and having them slaughtered to sell the meat. Though it was profitable, I never heard them teaching us to be thankful. We didn't say our prayers before meals.

Growing up, our parents constantly compared us to the neighbor's kids. I owned two pairs of socks in high school and two sets of uniforms for the entire week. But I enjoyed doing laundry, which was never an issue.

Looking back, these circumstances led me to where I am today. I gradually learned my limiting beliefs and attracted people and resources that helped me grow beyond those boundaries. Still, some of these beliefs restricted my path to reaching my true potential for many years.

Once I recognized my weaknesses, I sought to overcome those stumbling blocks. It took me decades, but my eagerness to change my life led me to focus on myself. Along the way, I discovered several practices that helped me.

• I practiced meditation

• I learned to live mindfully

• I created my happiness project

• I practiced kindness and awareness

• I chose to be grateful every day

I thought these practices would help me navigate life smoothly, but no! I discovered I was still a prisoner of my limiting beliefs. So now I'm learning about mindset as well. Practice makes permanent, and every day offers us choices.

Why Gratitude Rise Above the Rest?

Among all these practices, gratitude stands tallest. If you're ungrateful, you won't find happiness, you won't express kindness naturally, and your life will remain dimmed and constricted.

Have you noticed yourself waking up with a heavy heart? Have you ever analyzed why?

Retiring at night with a heavy heart will undoubtedly result in a bad mood the following morning. When falling asleep, your state of mind largely determines the morning that awaits you.

Practical Ways to Cultivate Gratitude

Here are a few simple practices you can adopt to ensure a peaceful sleep and a happier disposition when you wake:

The Evening Gratitude Practice

Write down 10 blessings you received today. You can start with these prompts:

• I am grateful to ________________________ because ______________________________________.

• I am thankful for _______________________ because ______________________________________.

• I am delighted with _____________________ because ______________________________________.

If you're having difficulty getting started, focus on your day:

• Your waking hour

• The food on your table

• The water you bathed in

• The air you breathe

• Someone who prepared your food

• The delivery person who brought your online shopping

• A friend who checked on you

• The happiness your pet gives you

• The money you have, however much or little

After completing your list, reread it and feel the happiness associated with each item. Then pick the one you're most thankful for, close your eyes, and say "THANK YOU" three times.

Remember: Do this gratitude practice because you're genuinely grateful. If you feel obligated rather than sincere, take three deep breaths:

• Inhale for six counts

• Hold for three counts

• Exhale for seven counts

  
  

Then return to your gratitude practice with a clearer mind.

The 24-Hour Complaint-Free Challenge

If the evening practice seems too time-consuming, start with this: Give me your 86,400 seconds (24 hours) and try this mission:

For the next 24 hours, refrain from complaining. If you complain, immediately shift your focus to happy thoughts and things you're grateful for.

This practice helps you become more mindful, choose happiness consciously, and remain in a space of love and gratitude.

From Scarcity to Abundance: My Turning Point

You might be thinking, "It's easier said than done." I understand because I've been there myself.

Here's a short story from my own life:

My paychecks arrived on the 5th and 20th of each month. Before those dates, I meticulously scheduled bills and payments. When my paycheck arrived, I focused exclusively on bills, groceries, and other responsibilities.

Standing at the ATM withdrawing money, my mind constantly calculated expenses. I worried incessantly that the money wouldn't last until the next paycheck. My stress levels rose so high that migraines became common.

Did the money buy us food and other necessities? Yes. Did I pay the bills? Yes. Did my worry help bridge me to another paycheck? No.

I lived in that mindset, day in and day out. My expressions of gratitude were superficial. Tithing felt like just another expense. My job became a nuisance because it "didn't give me enough." My days seemed gloomy, and I felt perpetually stressed.

Where did this take me? I became stranded, stressed out, dealing with skin problems, and my weight fluctuated unhealthily. I survived, yes, but my life was miserable.

In desperation, I prayed, called out to God, and cried, saying I couldn't take it anymore. What I neglected was to thank Him. I was grateful only during times of abundance, but when experiencing scarcity, I found faults and complained constantly. I failed to see the goodness behind the challenges.

This happens to most of us, including you. We're imperfect, but we can perfect our perspective by practicing gratitude.

The Frequency of Gratitude

When I discovered the practice of gratitude, it changed my life tremendously. It taught me to live in the present moment and be grateful for everything.

When you live at a high frequency—love has a frequency of 500 while apathy sits at 50—you attract people vibrating at that same level. However, sometimes you attract people with lower frequencies who may try to "rain on your parade."

Here are a few low-frequency energies that can pull you down:

• Shame—20

• Guilt - 30

• Apathy—50

• Grief—75

• Fear—100

Negative people carry these frequencies, so dealing with them can exhaust you. Protect yourself by staying in your space of love and happiness. Gratitude helps maintain your high frequency.

Looking back at my experiences, I've been able to identify past mistakes and choose to move forward. I'm even grateful for those mistakes because they led me to my present life.

Gratitude in Times of Scarcity

I understand it's challenging to feel happy when resources are scarce. But why mope when you can be thankful for having inadequate resources? Some people have none.

If I have only $500 in my bank account and bills to pay, should I affirm, "I don't have money?" Even if the bill in my purse is just $20, I have money and need to be grateful for that.

The more grateful you are:

• The more blessings flow,

• The better your disposition becomes,

• The brighter your day appears

• You attract more people (because they want your smile).

Takeaway: The Daily Practice

Gratitude needs to be mastered, and mastery comes from daily practice. Remember, practice makes permanent.

Keep saying thank you for every blessing you receive, and you'll find yourself blessed immensely.

Gratitude isn't just about being polite—it's about transforming your perspective, your energy, and ultimately, your life.

Start today. Right now. What are you grateful for at this moment?

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Updated March 2025